by Dr. John J. Franey, CEO/Founder of Developing Difference Makers
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Coaches come in many sizes, shapes, and expertise, but what they share in common is the difference they can make in the lives of others. Coaches help others to be their best, to push past difficult moments, to set goals, and to train or work harder to achieve greatness. Looking back on my own development, I can remember fondly many of the coaches that had a lasting impact on my professional and personal life. Coaches all the way back to my childhood through high school and college athletics and even now in my professional life help me to continue to progress and grow. You can probably think back fondly to the many coaches who have made a difference in your life, and probably wish you could talk to them again and get their support and advice.
For each of us, we have our own type of coach that fits best with our needs and personality. Some of us need a hard-nosed coach who is always pushing you and never lets you off the hook, while others need a coach who is personable and shows immense care for you as a person. A perfect example of this is on the reality TV show ‘The Biggest Loser’ where overweight people are faced with the difficult task of getting healthy and restarting their lives. On the show, there are two to three coaches who work with these individuals as they go through their difficult journey. It is always interesting to see how each individual tends to favor one coach or another due to the differences in that coach’s personality and techniques. They seek out the coach that will have the greatest impact on their journey. Regardless of the type of coach we each covet in our lives, we are in constant need of this coaching presence.
Too many times we relegate the need for coaches to the athletic fields and courts, but in reality, don’t we all have coaches that impact us on a regular basis? Sure, they may not go by the title of ‘Coach,’ but do we not seek out advice and support from people like mentors, therapists, pastors, and friends? Recently I sat down to breakfast with a friend, a very successful businessman in a completely different field than I work in, and yet he took on the role of coach by helping me to see my current work from a different perspective. I left the breakfast happy for the time spent with a good friend, but even more so for the readjustment to my current work and the newfound drive to push harder. While I would never call him Coach, he had taken on this role similar to the way in which so many coaches have done in my life.
There is no doubt that we all are in constant need of coaching, as we constantly seek out those who can provide us support, advice, or the push we need to excel. While they may not draw up plays on a whiteboard, or break clipboards when we screw up, they are a positive influence on our lives. As individuals we should continue to seek out coaches in our lives, either formally or informally, so as to continue to develop our ability to make a difference for others.
Want to know what you could do to make an impact in the way of coaching? Here is the game plan:
1.Take some time to think back to the ‘coaches’ who have made an impact on your life and find a way to reach out to them to say thank you for making a difference
2.Think about the people that you have coached along the way and what more you could do to help them. Reach out to them and see how they are doing
3.Think of an area in your life where you could use some advice, support, or a push ahead and then think about someone who could be your coach to move towards success
These three steps will help you to reconnect with those you have had an impact in your life, those who you have impacted, and those who could help you in the next step of your life. This will help us all develop further, push ahead, and make a difference in the world.